elle kynzer

Life Is The Quality Of One's Inner Being, Whether Melancholy, Happy, Or Disastrous!



Posted: Sunday, February 05, 2012

by elle kynzer

Metaphorically speaking our birth until Kindergarten is a place of learning and filing information as it is dispensed by parents and family members. We are the blank slate of a new computer at birth.  The best of those files we've assembled in our brain are what we carry into our grammer school years, and help us connect with the new friends we make. People tend to choose friends who carry similar experiences in their files.  Children are the product of a families daily input over time.

The choices of how we keep our files will translate in high school to our rebellion or conformity, whether we are successful or defiant....and occasionally as to whether drugs appeal or not.  Distorted files will give us a distorted view of the world, and we will be bitter, angry, or sad.  The parenting style we had affects our inner being. How our emotions were as we filed tell what type of parent we will be, so how did we see those files: angry, sad, happy, content, with a positive attitude or a negative one.

If we have dealt with overbearing parents many people react by being too lenient in their expectations of others.  If we've had authority figures with a 'do what you want' attitude, then the melancholy of not feeling loved can set up, because without bounderies that say "I care you are safe", it can be confusing and hurtful. In some cases control or alcohol cause a person to take a parents actions to heart, and be just as hard on their own offspring, if not worse.

Happy parents, who balance their love with discipline are the most successful, and the disastrous parent is one who throws up their hands and walk away.  Happiness is not a destination, it is a journey of filing things under their appropriate category and pressing forward with determination.  Leave sadness and melancholy for funerals, severe illnesss, and not a daily reminder to the children that your life is depressing.

Disaster is not taking a long look in the mirror to see if you are becoming what you hated.  Are you miserable...there are pills and counseling  for that.  Those who do not take advantage of the science that helps are being selfish. Those files are misplaced, and your computer needs to be cleaned. Usually it means your spirit needs refreshing and meeting with like minded people or loving people will bring encouragement to your life.  A hug can sometimes mean I understand.

Life's journey should be adventerous, peaceful, and fun; when it's not we have to regroup and find out where we left the track and allowed others to input into our computer the viruses of hate, misery, and anger.  Choose to have a cleaning and reboot your thoughts for a clearer direction, metaphorically speaking. I do that through meditative prayer and praise, but you choose the route that helps your life return to that inner balance of peace.
Elle Kynzer was born in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina, and grew up in a rural area, as an only child. She is married with one son, and two grandsons.

She was a Personnel Assistant in her early twenties, and began hiring employees for the company. By her early thirties she had returned to NC, and became an Executive Officer in Real Estate. She also served as part-time USNR for more than ten years.

Elle went back to college at WCU, then went on to teach Criminal Justice for a local Community College, in the local High Schools/college credit.

Elle Kynzer, Author:

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Poetry: A WINDING RIVER; Paranormal: TRAMPLING ON JUSTICE; Christian: REFLECTIONS OF GRACE See Amazon.com; or visit my blog for descriptions.

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Metaphorically Speaking
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» left by Steve Kovacs
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Nice article--well said and if needed, worth taking your well worded advice.

Steve
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» left by Fran Larson
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This is my favorite part: " Leave sadness and melancholy for funerals, severe illnesss, and not a daily reminder to the children that your life is depressing. I try not to vent to my children how depressing it can be at this stage of life, - friends and relative my age dying often -

Great article and I like how you talked metaphorically about files.
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